The Breakup
Let's face it, breakups are the worse, especially for girls like me. For some people they hate dating to begin with, being tied down to a person isn't always the greatest feeling, and for other people being with that special person is the best feeling. For me i have a friend who is in the middle with it, yes dating can be fun if you do it the correct way but in other cases it can turn out bad. However, my friend has learned a lot from her past relationships that i thought would be good to share with anyone who may be starting to date or just need reminders. We all know the basics like if the Boy or Girl is cheating then it probably not the best relationship to be in but i want to go deep with something my friend went through which is Communication.
Communication is key in a relationship and without it the whole thing can fail, and my friend learned that 1st hand. She had such a strong relationship that was 3 months at the time and once summer came around it started to fall, her boyfriend wasn't the best at talking back over the phone to begin with but they saw each other at school so she powered through it. She ended up hanging out her friends more then she did her boyfriend though only because he was year older then her which therefore put him a grade higher. If it wasn't for a simple band class they shared she would've never seen him, she would loom forward to having band practice with him just to be with him. So when he stopped replying to her text and never picking up her phone calls it hurt her really bad but she still powered through it despite what everyone said. She did so until the 3 month anniversary came around, she had been calling him all day and never got a reply so she had a friend call him and within the 1st ring he picked up. She had told her friend to give him a message and to text her when he got it, when he texted her she was so happy but next thing you know all she gets is a "Goodnight" at 7pm after the whole day of calling and being happy they had been dating for 3 months she finally realized that there had to be someone who would communicate better. She realized her worth and ended the relationship.
Breakups are a process though and sometimes the process can take forever to get over especially when you love someone as much as she did and its still something she has to get over. However you have to think "Is or was this person I'm dating worth my love and focus?" and answer it truthfully to yourself. You have to think what the bible says about dating, if you feel unpleasant about the person your with you have to think about yourself "Are you happy with this person?" or "Do you feel a positive energy from this person?"
Lets look at our future the best we can and it may help us understand if we are making the right choice with this person. We can look at 2nd Timothy 2:22 "Run from anything that gives you the evil thoughts that young men often have, but stay close to anything that makes you want to do right. Have faith and love, and enjoy the companionship of those who love the Lord and have pure hearts." We need to feel at peace with who we love or like just as the bible says. Never settle for something we think is good even if someone promises its the best thing ever, settling doesn't always lead to the best things so we must always pray. Stay positive all you teens!
Communication is key in a relationship and without it the whole thing can fail, and my friend learned that 1st hand. She had such a strong relationship that was 3 months at the time and once summer came around it started to fall, her boyfriend wasn't the best at talking back over the phone to begin with but they saw each other at school so she powered through it. She ended up hanging out her friends more then she did her boyfriend though only because he was year older then her which therefore put him a grade higher. If it wasn't for a simple band class they shared she would've never seen him, she would loom forward to having band practice with him just to be with him. So when he stopped replying to her text and never picking up her phone calls it hurt her really bad but she still powered through it despite what everyone said. She did so until the 3 month anniversary came around, she had been calling him all day and never got a reply so she had a friend call him and within the 1st ring he picked up. She had told her friend to give him a message and to text her when he got it, when he texted her she was so happy but next thing you know all she gets is a "Goodnight" at 7pm after the whole day of calling and being happy they had been dating for 3 months she finally realized that there had to be someone who would communicate better. She realized her worth and ended the relationship.
Breakups are a process though and sometimes the process can take forever to get over especially when you love someone as much as she did and its still something she has to get over. However you have to think "Is or was this person I'm dating worth my love and focus?" and answer it truthfully to yourself. You have to think what the bible says about dating, if you feel unpleasant about the person your with you have to think about yourself "Are you happy with this person?" or "Do you feel a positive energy from this person?"
Lets look at our future the best we can and it may help us understand if we are making the right choice with this person. We can look at 2nd Timothy 2:22 "Run from anything that gives you the evil thoughts that young men often have, but stay close to anything that makes you want to do right. Have faith and love, and enjoy the companionship of those who love the Lord and have pure hearts." We need to feel at peace with who we love or like just as the bible says. Never settle for something we think is good even if someone promises its the best thing ever, settling doesn't always lead to the best things so we must always pray. Stay positive all you teens!
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